Late Date Friday

So sorry for the massive delay in postings! It's been a busy week at the McLay home.

We didn't want to miss out on an opportunity to celebrate Hot Date Friday. So...though it's Tuesday, here is a recent Q&A from one of our WONDERFUL readers...


I love my friends. Not bragging, but I have alot of them, and alot of them tend to be boys. They say they feel comfortable around me. Fantastic. I've had feelings for this friend for a time now, but as of late we have become the best of friends. I have never had a friendship like this, where we are both completely honest with our feelings and talk about everything under the sun. We have both expressed that we have had interest in eachother at one time or another, and even talked about the possibility of dating. We go on dates and spend alot of time together, until he announced that he feels even though we were never "officially" dating, he wants to date other people.He actually said he wanted to see me dating someone else to see how it made him feel. I don't know what to do! He still wants to spend time with me as a best friend and relies on me for alot, but I have outsiders telling me that I need to cut the cord- take a break-not even talk for a spell. The thought of that almost KILLS me, seeing as how he is my best friend right now. We are both at a "marriage-worthy" age and I see great potential with him, and we have even talked about how we are both convinced it is a timing issue. Great. When all is said and done, he is wonderful. But is it worth all of this drama?!

Timing is such a peculiar thing. Isn’t it? I think many young adult men (and gals) use timing as the gentle way to say, “I’m just not interested.” Now. There are certainly times when a bit of a delay changes a relationship for the better. But, more often than not, it’s just a soft way to encourage a break up.
In my professional {read: experience from the long-ago dating years} opinion, I would suggest that you take his cue as an invitation to go looking for someone who is more interested in seeing you as marriage material than just someone to pal around with. You want to get married. So you’ve got to stop wasting your time with someone who is playing games, and start seriously searching for the gem of a guy who is interested in playing house.

It will hurt. Yes. You’ll be lonely without his companionship and listening ear. But, it will hurt more to look back on the time together as lost time you could have spent searching for an eternal companion. That said, I may I suggest that you just raise the stakes by anteing up everything you have in a high-honesty conversation with your chum. Just put it out there to him. Say, “I get that you want to be friends. I was hoping for more. So, if you’re ever interested in wooing me—really wooing me—you have my number. Otherwise, I’m off on my merry way to find Mr. Right.” And, while your at it, find a few good girlfriends to keep you company during your search. You’ll never have to lose them, even after you marry your hunka-hunka burning love. ~Sis. M

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